Like many people, my parents raised me to be an independent person and not rely on someone else to be successful.
As a couples therapist, I've learned about Attachment Theory and the potential suffering and loss that comes with this belief system. John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, who developed Attachment theory, found that childhood experiences influence adulthood relationships.
The quality of our early attachments to primary caregivers impacts our relationships as adults. When those early attachments are secure, we can develop a safe sense of self. When they are insecure, we may go on seeking safety throughout our lives, in unsafe and painful ways.